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Does Age Really Matter - DJ60 - 03-22-2015
Hi everyone. I'd like to get a sense for how others feel about the question, does age really matter? I realize this is probably an individual preference type question/answer, but I am trying to decide if I should go through with the financial hassle, family complications, etc. at this point in my life and feel like I'd like to hear from others close to my age who might have already experienced surgery. I find myself saying, 'you've lived this long with boobs, why put yourself and your family through all the pain and drama'. On the other hand, I tell myself, 'why not live the last years of your life the way you REALLY believe you were meant to live'.
Has anyone else out there had similar feelings/thoughts and how did you find your answer(s)?
RE: Does Age Really Matter - kilidala - 03-22-2015
Hi there, yes, I have been back and forth about this also. You don't say how old you are, but I am 51. Hope to hear from you.
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Seth - 04-01-2015
Yep. Approaching 60 and doing my research. Could have done this 10 years ago except for all the questions raised above. Though I am concerned about healing since I am older.
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Joshua - 04-13-2015
I think you answered your own question with a question
(03-22-2015, 04:02 AM)DJ60 Wrote: 'why not live the last years of your life the way you REALLY believe you were meant to live'.
Did you come up with any answers to *that* question?
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Jak - 04-18-2015
Yup, been asking myself the same question. I'm 58. I did two consults and really want to have the surgery. Then I ask myself, "Should I really spend the money, time, etc. on this at this point in my life?" I know that I want to do so. I think my hesitation is primarily around whether I should do it before losing weight and being menopausal, geez, that's a real challenge. Then, having shopped for shirts this morning, yeah, I want 'em gone!
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Joshua - 04-18-2015
Jak, I posted some links to a couple of recent articles about transitioning later in life in this thread. You might find them of interest.
RE: Does Age Really Matter - beckster - 04-27-2015
Hi!
Over the last few years, I asked myself that same question-- should I bother now, after all these years?? I have decided that yes-- I should bother. I don't care how many years I may or may not have left. I don't care what anyone says or what anyone else wants. I want them gone. I am 48 and I have hated these awful things (size 36 D) since they first sprouted at the age of 10. I have tried to convince myself for YEARS that I was or could be ok with them. I have kept them for partners who said "Oh, they're so lovely please don't!" No more.
I am annoyed that I have to get a letter of permission from someone who doesn't know me when this is what I've wanted my entire adult life. If I wanted implants no one would make me see a therapist. But... that's a rant for a different thread.
I say go for it. I am just starting the process of finding a therapist who will help me out with minimal grief (I am not male identified), but once I have that letter I will schedule a consult and have it done asap. I'll put it on a damn credit card if I have to.
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Jak - 04-28-2015
Thanks, Joshua!
RE: Does Age Really Matter - jaye - 05-03-2015
I don't think age does matter. I'm 50 and have decided to do the top surgery in the next 2 years. The only reason for the wait is that I need to come up with the money, and I need to lose weight first. I don't identify as male. I identify more as female to neutral. The breasts, I've always just tolerated, but have also resented. So, it's time to get rid of them. When you don't identify as female, those things just don't fit your body at all. You gotta do what you gotta do to be happy, and one thing we can do is feel comfortable in our own bodies. I can't wait for them to be gone, and then go shopping for shirts!
RE: Does Age Really Matter - Jak - 06-08-2015
Just had to share that I just booked my surgery date. 14 December. I'll be 59. I went back and forth on the "should I bother" question. Ultimately I decided that I could live to be 80+ and I'll be much more content if I go ahead with it. Now that I actually have a date I am so jazzed! The only 'down side' is having to talk with my primary care physician. Not looking forward to that. But, yay for giving myself a Christmas present!